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Baby wants a double vodka

Saturday, July 20th, 2013

Pregnant women who use methadone are likely to under-report their alcohol and drug use, a piece of research published this month has found. The admittedly small sample of fifty-six opioid-dependent women, prescribed methadone as a substitute for heroin, were found to continue taking illicit drugs and alcohol during their pregnancy, as discovered by testing mothers’ and babies’ urine, and meconium (first stools). The study showed that 91% of women taking part in the study had used illicit drugs – 73% had continued taking opiates, and 70% had used benzodiazepines (which are thought to be linked to birth defects). 47% of the babies had also been exposed to alcohol use at levels of at least 2 units a day or 5 units at once, despite only 5% of the women disclosing this level of alcohol use. The most common combination (drug workers won’t be surprised to hear) was heroin, cannabis and alcohol.

Now this is clearly a highly-contentious area to discuss. On one side of the debate, there are people who acknowledge that women become pregnant for a variety of reasons, not necessarily through choice, and that the lifestyle that comes with heroin addiction may not be the most happy or meaningful existence, or borne from the most stable of upbringings. Once pregnant, drug users typically face extreme feelings of guilt – feelings which they have historically used drugs and alcohol to manage. And then the judgements and processes they are subjected to during pregnancy – safeguarding procedures and meetings, constant monitoring, reports written weekly about them and their parenting capacity, every bad decision they have ever made dragged up and pored over – make pregnancy not a joyful but a very stressful experience.

And then, on the other side of the debate, there are the tabloid readers – and there is so much meat on this bone for them to chew. First of all, of course, all drug users should die. They sacrificed their right to be on this planet the first time they smoked a spliff. Then – it gets worse – they are mothers. Should a woman not cease to exist in her own right the instant she conceives? She is, after all, a vessel. She should be pure and demure and fit all the glowing, maternal images we associate with motherhood. So the lifetime of misery, abuse, ill-treatment and self-deprecation should end the second that sperm hits that egg.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I find it very hard not to judge drug-using mothers-to-be. The unborn child is helpless and dependent on her to meet its every need, and it is heart-wrenching to think that it is disadvantaged before it has even left her womb. I do read the riot-act to these women, making it very clear that they are putting their baby’s welfare at risk, and increasing the chance that, once born, their baby will suffer painful and distressing withdrawal symptoms. What a sad and sorry start to life.

However, one thing is for sure – guilt does not perpetuate healthy behaviour. The fact these women are under-reporting their substance use is a sure sign that they already know all of this. You can bet your bottom dollar that they are beating themselves up more than anyone else ever could. And it is the discrepancy between what is expected of them and what they believe themselves to be capable of that makes burying one’s head in the sand the most realistic option.

I would imagine that most women who have had children would find this research both sickening and saddening. Whilst the idea of doing anything that may put their babies at risk may repulse them, I bet most of them have also felt judged, squeezed by other people’s expectations, desperate not to stand outside the prescriptive maternal mould that is dictated to them. Surely there is no worse judgement than being a bad mother. And not breast-feeding…?!

In the late stages of her pregnancy, I took a good friend of mine out for a drink. She was a single mum with two other kids at home, and she was desperate, for one last time before her baby was born, to just be herself for a night. She hadn’t drunk at all throughout her pregnancy, but on this occasion, I bought her a bottle of Corona, and she savoured it as we sat talking for an hour. We were in Wetherspoon’s – not an establishment known for its distinguished clientele with high moral values – but you should have seen the looks she got that evening. People gathered to bitch and point; judgements were formed, comments were made. At the time, she was drinking within the acceptable limits in pregnancy (guidance has since changed to ‘no alcohol during pregnancy’, although I believe this was mainly due to the fact that people struggle to quantify a unit), and she certainly wasn’t putting her late-stage pregnancy at any risk by her action. But as she sat there, gorgeous and bulbous, trying to enjoy her one night of being a person before months of being a multi-tasking milk machine, she was deemed by the other drinkers gathered that evening as the scourge of the earth.

So I suppose, in conclusion, I just want to say – this piece of research is sad. It is sad for the babies, it is sad for the mothers, it is sad for society. But maybe, maybe, if we saw pregnant women as people first and mothers second, the gap between expectation and reality might not be so great, and the image of the happy, stable, glowing mum-to-be might change into something more achievable for all pregnant women.

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